Showing posts with label love. Show all posts
Showing posts with label love. Show all posts

Thursday, 29 July 2010

TAKE TIME TO SAY I LOVE YOU

MOTHERSHAND

After 21 years of marriage, my wife wanted me to take another woman out to dinner and a movie. She said, “I love you but I know this other woman loves you and would love to spend some time with you.” The other woman that my wife wanted me to visit was my mother, who has been a widow for 19 years, but the demands of my work and my three children had made it possible to visit her only occasionally.

That night I called to invite her to go out for dinner and a movie. “What's wrong, are you well,” she asked? My mother is the type of woman who suspects that a late night call or a surprise invitation is a sign of bad news. “'I thought that it would be pleasant to spend some time with you,” I responded “just the two of us.” She thought about it for a moment, and then said, “I would like that very much.”

That Friday after work, as I drove over to pick her up I was a bit nervous. When I arrived at her house, I noticed that she, too, seemed to be nervous about our date. She waited in the door with her coat on. She had curled her hair and was wearing the dress that she had worn to celebrate her last wedding anniversary. She smiled from a face that was as radiant as an angel's. “I told my friends that I was going to go out with my son, and they were impressed,” she said, as she got into the car. “They can't wait to hear about our meeting.”

We went to a restaurant that, although not elegant, was very nice and cozy. My mother took my arm as if she were the First Lady. After we sat down, I had to read the menu as her eyes could only read large print. Half-way through the entrees, I lifted my eyes and saw Mother sitting there staring at me with a nostalgic smile on her lips. “'It was I who used to have to read the menu when you were small,” she said. “Then it's time that you relax and let me return the favor,” I responded. During the dinner, we had an agreeable conversation nothing extraordinary but catching up on recent events of each other's life. We talked so much that we missed the movie. As we arrived at her house later, she said, 'I'll go out with you again, but only if you let me invite you.” I agreed. “How was your dinner date?” asked my wife when I got home. “Very nice, much more so than I could have imagined,” I answered.

A few days later, my mother died of a massive heart attack. It happened so suddenly that I didn't have a chance to do anything for her. Sometime later, I received an envelope with a copy of a restaurant receipt from the same place Mother and I had dined. An attached note said: “I paid this bill in advance. I wasn't sure that I could be there; but, nevertheless, I paid for two plates - one for you and the other for your wife. You will never know what that night meant for me.” “I love you, son!”

At that moment, I understood the importance of saying in time: “I LOVE YOU” and to give our loved ones the time that they deserve. Nothing in life is more important than your family. Give them the time they deserve, because these things cannot be put off until some later dates.

Somebody said it takes about six weeks to get back to normal after you've had a baby... That somebody doesn't know that once you're a mother, “normal” is history.

Somebody said you can't love the second child as much as you love the first... That somebody doesn't have two or more children.

Somebody said the hardest part of being a mother is labor and delivery... That somebody never watched her “baby” get on the bus for the first day of kindergarten as she had experienced that before.

Somebody said a mother can stop worrying after her child gets married... That somebody doesn't know that marriage adds a new son or daughter-in-law to a mother's heartstrings.

Somebody said a mother's job is done when her last child leaves home... That somebody never had grandchildren.

Somebody said your mother knows you love her, so you don't need to tell her... That somebody isn't a mother.

This isn't just about being a mother; it's about appreciating the people in your lives while you have them... no matter who that person is!

Watch your thoughts, they become words.
Watch your words, they become actions.
Watch your actions, they become habits.
Watch your habits, they become character.
Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.

Friday, 9 May 2008

HAVING FAITH IN LIFE

It would be a wonderful thing if everyone in this world has at least some compassion in them. It was only two days ago that I had encountered an incident when a man fainted along the pathway of the heavily traffic of Penang Road, in a fit with blood rushing out from his nose and not even a single motorist stopped by to help him. I often wondered if the locals are really a heartless bunch of people or they are afraid of other consequences that might happen if they were to lay a hand to help anyone that is really in need. Although I was already late for an appointment, miles away, I was glad that at least I did my part in calling 991 for an ambulance to send him to the hospital

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Speaking about compassion, my heart melted away as I was reading about how a 22-year-old Reuben Stringfellow, a private-first class in the Army, stationed in Alaska, rescued a puppy about to be put to sleep. His mother Jude, who lives in Oklahoma City, took over the task of caring for the poor puppy. Faith, the name given to the Labrador-Chow Chow mix breed female dog, was born in December 2002 with only 3 legs. Its left front leg was amputated at 7-months old when it was found to be deformed and useless. She has to be taught to walk upright by a canine trainer and training was not that easy as everyone thought. I guessed she would be the first bipedal dog that I have known that ought to receive a standing ovation.

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This is a great incident where a combination of compassion by the Stringfellow family and having faith in life, can push forward the determination of a canine to live its life to the fullest. Be compassionate. Lend a hand. Encourage some faith and motivation to live on, not only towards animals but also towards those humans surrounding you. Life is not something to be discarded off so easily when there is still hope, faith and willpower to strive on.

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A book has been published about Faith entitled “With a Little Faith”. If you check through YouTube, you can see Faith and her owner, Jude Stringfellow, featured on The Oprah Winfrey Show, The Montel Williams Show as well as Ripley’s Believe it or Not. You can learn more about Faith at faiththedog.net

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Sunday, 24 February 2008

A SPARKLING MOMENT IN YOUR LIFE

365RINGS

Many people have the tendencies to say that the best moment of their life has yet to come. When it actually comes, they would be in panicky situations to decide what would be the best gift for their soul mates to signify their true love. This is the time when a man has to put on his courage shoes to propose to his other half with a signification gift of true love. What would be the ideal gift? You may consider giving her one of the best engagement rings available in the market.

In most cases, most man would be worried with their financial ability to get the ideal rings for the engagement as well as for the wedding. I have came across a great site which offers the highest quality diamond rings with a large discount as much as 50% off the high street price. The UK based company, 365-diamond.com, has the best certified diamond rings around the jewelry world to meet your budget. You can easily choose from their huge display of genuine rings such as the Round Brilliant Cut Rings, Princess Diamond Engagement Rings, Diamond Set Shoulder Engagement Rings, Marquise Engagement Rings, Emerald Engagement Rings, Pear Engagement Rings, Oval Engagement Rings, Cluster Rings or the Heart Engagement Rings.

Cost does play an important part of any wedding couples’ milestones into a married life but none will save on the once in a lifetime symbol of love – the wedding rings. There are many types of rings available from off the shelves designs to custom-made ones. You might want to consider having a pair of 18ct yellow and white gold combination rings or you can easily opt for diamond studded yellow or white gold rings. In the case that you might want to consider simplicity, you may choose plain rings made out of platinum, yellow or white gold.

Would you not feel great to be able to touch the heart of your love with a sparkle during these special occasions? Jump in 365-diamond.com now to make these moments the most memorable ones in your life.

Wednesday, 19 December 2007

HELLO LOVE

GLOWINGHEART

Spew out the venom of hatred from your heart,
It poisons and chokes all the goodness in you;
Spew it out, throw it out, spit it out,
Thus life will be filled with peace ever after.

Fill your heart with the soothing balm of love,
Let it permeates every pore of your existence;
Reach out the mind of those with hatred,
With pure love and tenderness.

Let those who comes near your presence,
Feels the magic aura of your goodness;
Shower them with courage and confidence,
To face this ever hard and cruel world.

Like a little but steady glowing lamp,
We can ignite many other little lamps;
Conquer the black night of despair and delusion,
With the pure light of wisdom and love.

Sunday, 16 December 2007

SACRIFICE YOUR TIME FOR A GOOD CAUSE

WORTHYCAUSE

Martin Luther King once said, “Everyone can be great, because everyone can serve.” Even Mahatma Gandhi has his say in “The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others.” What these two great men said is true. We have been so engrossed in our daily affairs that we no longer take heed of the needs of many worthy causes out there in our world. All the time we have been selfish in thinking about “I, Me, I, Me” without ever try laying a helping hand to serve others.

Think carefully. When was the last time you asked, “How can I of help to you?” It does not have to be to any charitable organizations or any social centres but to the people as close to you as your parents or siblings. Days? Weeks? Months? Years? Forgot when? If you do not have the financial ability to help, time is all you have and time can be the sort of service most people would want. Being with the people you love is a service. Lending an ear to listen is a service. Helping someone to carry things is a service. Even assisting a friend or colleague in learning something new is a service.

There are many ways you can provide your service to others. Big or small, people know, people appreciate and people will remember. So, during this coming celebration or just any other normal days, extend your hands to give your service to another. Spend some time with someone you do not know in an old folks’ homes, adoption centres, hospitals, children welfare centres. Volunteer yourself in social work. Support a worthy cause. Touch the heart of someone. After all, sharing your peace, love and joy would not hurt you except for that little bit of time.

Saturday, 15 December 2007

WILL YOU MARRY ME?

MARRYME

Since the first moment the magic word of “yes” is uttered and the engagement is official, it is all systems go in planning for the big day. The exhilarating feeling will soon disappear as it would be replaced by sleepless nights worrying about all the preparations prior to the integral wedding reception, namely flowers, guests list, invitation cards, etc to bridesmaid gifts and groomsmen gifts.

An engagement period of three to six months might not even be enough time for you to handle if you do not know where and how to get the things you will need for the wedding day. Cost is usually the consideration for this milestone in your life. Prioritizing your needs based on cost, necessity and practicality normally turns out to be the best way to cut cost, lend a sense of focus and yet still give you the perfect and personalized wedding.

The choosing of the date to tie the knot is just as important. Various considerations must also be taken such as one’s culture, finances, and even dates to enable relatives and guests from far and near to attend. Some might even choose dates like New Year Day, Valentine’s day, while others would want their Birthday to coincide with their happy day.

Since this is the celebration of the love between the two of you, dates, time, venue, size and style of the wedding should be compromised as one. As a couple, numerous details needed to be juggled which comprises the everlasting wedding rings, photography, video shooting, bridal wears for both, bridal make-up, wedding cars, dinner menu, business gifts and lastly not forgetting the getaway honeymoon.

Wedding bells are about to chime happily soon. So will you marry me now? Please say, “I do!”

Thursday, 13 December 2007

MAKING A DIFFERENCE

DIFFERENCE

As Milton Mayeroff once said, “Love is selfless promotion of the growth of the other.” It is indeed true. There is nothing more sincere and noble in the heart than to stretch your hand forward to make a difference in the lives of others. It would not take much time as it may be just another chore you add to your daily duties.

Initiative is the core word. You have to willingly sacrifice part of your time to do what is beyond your norm. Helping around with out being asked to, frequently surprise others with flowers or gifts when they least expected, make the extra effort to pop in an old folks’ home and touch the life of another lonely soul, making the life happier for those children in the hospital’s critical wards are a few to mention.

This season is the season of joy, love and peace. Put on your Santa hat and go around to touch the heart of another. It does not necessary be of monetary value. It can be by rendering your time and service to those desperate in need. Share the love and joy you have with them and make them happy. After all, the more you rejoice, the more you can find inner happiness. Thus, you will find yourself being blessed endlessly as what goes out will eventually find its way back somehow.

Tuesday, 11 December 2007

FOR THE FUTURE BENEFITS OF YOUR LOVED ONES

LIFEINSURED

We do not know whence we shall go, leaving behind all that we have ever loved in this world. Life is so unpredictable and it is not within the grasp of our hands. One moment we might be here, the next moment we will be gone. Death is something which many fears but with every life, there is death. It is part of nature’s continuous recurring rhythm. Death is no cause for sorrow, unless one dies without having done something for oneself or loved ones.

There best way to cover any loss and have a peace of mind would be by getting oneself insured in every aspect of any unforeseen mishaps. There are many companies and agencies providing these services but how fair is the deal? Would you be over paying in premiums to stop you from having a better life for yourself? Be wise in comparing the best deals on the available range of financial products, such as car insurance, health insurance, house insurance, life insurance, hospitalization insurance or even cheap travel insurance and get your mind off the unnecessary worries.

Think of your loved ones. Do something for them now. Plan now for the future benefits of you loved ones.

LOVING OUGHT TO BE CONTAGIOUS

LOVEHEART

Smiling is believed to be contagious.
It spread easily like a running cold.
When someone smile at you today,
You would start smiling endlessly.

Let love emits freely from the heart.
Spread it and you will see the action repays itself.
For every goodness that you have received,
Bestow it, spread it upon others.
Pass it on to another without any guilt.
Let the goodness from the heart be contagious too!

Sunday, 9 December 2007

FRIENDSHIPS REMAIN TO THOSE WHO SEEK WISELY

FRIENDSHIPBEAUTY

In my previous post entitled FRIENDS IN DISGUISE, I was mentioning about the types of friends you should avoid in your life. They will not motivate you and bring you far in your path to being a successful person. What about those good ones whom you can get into your life? There are not many of these people around our ever changing society. If you can find one, together you can grow with them, nurture the friendship and move towards a better life. Who do you think possess the good characteristics that you would want them to be your friend?

Lover: This is not necessary someone who will love you and is willing to become your soul mate. This is someone who has a cultured mind, untainted by the chaotic and madness of life. S/he will have that in-born love and compassion, and knowing what is right or wrong distinctively. Everybody will love him/her for his/her mature way of life.

Listener: Someone who will listen attentively and patiently to you at all times. S/he could be a good counselor to all your hardships and woes. Every word that comes out from him/her will be of love, kindness, generosity and pleasantness. S/he is a resourceful person to guide you through your journey in life.

Speaker: Someone who speaks with deep thoughts, truth, back-upped by knowledge, experiences, facts and figures. This is the type of person who is very helpful and is willing to share what he knows without any repayment. S/he is indeed an unselfish person, not necessarily in monetary benefits but as in knowledge itself. Time and patience is all he has in clearing your doubts and straightening your thoughts. To him, actions speak louder than words.

Saver: Someone who will spend wisely in needs and not in wants. S/he is someone who will guide you through your journey in life, ensuring that you will not go astray in your process of reaching your aim. To him/her, time is money. So is life. Time should be used constructively in gaining more knowledge and experiences in order to have a better future. Self improvement and development remain as his/her ultimate goals. S/he is a wise person to be with.

On top of all the above points, holding on to your faith will also attract lots of good friends. S/he who is morally, intellectually and spiritually enriched will inspire, motivate and give strengths to others to move forward rightfully in life. After all, it is leadership by example. If you can show how well you will carry yourself, people will subsequently love you as whom you are…as a FRIEND!

Friday, 7 December 2007

CHAIN REACTIONS IN OUR WORLD

CHAINREACTION

Do you realize that whatever happened in the world we are living in, are somehow inter-related? This world has many flaws and imbalances. The rich gets richer while the poor gets poorer. If the rich were to feed every single poor man, there will be no end to the beggar problem in our world as every poor man will be just too lazy to find a decent job to feed his ever hungry tummy. If the rich refuses to feed the poor, then there will be endless starvation related problems in our world. This is just unfair and nothing is fair in this world. There will be endless chain reactions in this supposed grand life design.

When there is GREED, there will be LAZINESS.
When there is LAZINESS, there will be POVERTY.
When there is POVERTY, there will be HUNGER.
When there is HUNGER, there will be STEALING.
When there is STEALING, there will be KILLING.
Subsequently to cover the truth, there will be LYING.

The list will go on and on with an unending loop. Life will become shorter and shorter each day due to the increasing threats in the world. Man will become meaner and meaner as life is no longer meaningful to them. Man becomes animal-like with no sense of direction in life. Unless there is the willingness to CHANGE or steps taken to instill MORALITY into the mind of the new generation, there would be a day when there will no longer be any LOVE, PEACE and GRATITUDE in anyone in this world.

Thursday, 6 December 2007

LOVE AND RESPECT

CACTUS

However thorny it may be,
It still needs to quench its thirst,
To flower for everyone to see,
But without scent it will never be the first.

A flower without any scent or beauty,
Will be of no value to the eyes of many man;
A well-scented flower with beauty,
Will be loved by every single man.

Thus goes the same for anyone.
People with honour and dignity,
Will be loved and respected by everyone,
For as long as eternity.

Monday, 3 December 2007

LOVE IS JUST ANOTHER WORD

LOVEWORD

Love is almost impossible to define,
As it is something yet so divine.
Love is when you have that deep feeling inside you,
Wanting to break through ever more.
You will know it when you are in love,
When that someone special touches you heart, body and soul.
Until one day when you run across that special one that make you melt,
A kiss is just a kiss until you find the one you love.
A hug is just a hug until it is from the one you are always thinking of.
A dream is just a dream until you make it come true.
LOVE is just another word until it is proven to you!

Friday, 30 November 2007

ROMEO AND JULIET

ROMEOJULIET

Handsome Romeo met his young wife, Juliet at a shopping mall. He was twenty one and she was eighteen. It was love at first sight. She was normal looking except for the facial cosmetics which are way overdone. There was something in her that made him in a trance. Was it lust or crave? He did not know as all he felt was as if a strong wind blew him over when he first saw her. Their parents knew that the romance for them will be against all odds as Romeo was the rascal in the neighborhood who jumped in and out of jobs without a steady income and Juliet was just a part time cosmetics salesgirl in a mall. They could not do anything as the two love birds were already too deep in love. They would not want the repetition of a suicidal incident as in Shakespeare’s Romeo and Juliet.

After a year of courtship, they have decided to tie the knot without any celebrations or marriage certificate. It was based on mutual understanding. Romeo took out his life saving of $300 for their honeymoon. By the time they came back, they were left with a mere $30. Romeo assured Juliet that he would take care of her needs for the rest of her life. He deliberately worked two jobs a day, leaving his wife at home all the time. Months after months, all that he had earned was spent on his wife. He would buy the most delicious Western meals for her while he will only consume a bun.

This went on for the next one year and finally due to insufficient nutrients, he was gravely ill. He has no more savings left even to pay the doctor a visit. His wife has nothing left too since all the money she has taken was used to buy the cosmetics products for her beauty and the balance was used for room rental. Romeo was left helpless.

Feeling that her husband was no longer the money provider for her luxurious habits, Juliet left him and ran off with another guy. Romeo was heartbroken. All he did was to provide the best for his wife. He had stayed loyal to her and had never had any extra marital activities. What had happened to the love he once believed in? It was a healthy, strong and straightforward relationship but now all has changed. The once calm and beautiful lake was now filled with the ripples of life. Ripples from the sharp pointed stones thrown in. It hurt him deeply and getting over the breakup was not easy.

He has to lower his pride and seek the help from his parents. There is where the channel of undying love is and it will not cease until they no longer exist on earth. Marriage is not a game. Neither is love. And love does not necessary end up in a bed of roses. Unless you get all your career and life straighten out, do not ever commit in marrying someone without a steady financial status. Jumping into a relationship is easy but getting over a breakup will always leave a scar in your heart!

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ARE YOU IN CONTROL OF YOUR HAPPINESS?

HAPPINESSLIFE

Everyone wants happiness in life. All they want to do is to get rid of the sorrow and sadness and to stay happily ever after. Sounds like a fairy tale story right? If happiness is so wonderful, why is it so hard to achieve? The problem lies in your decision to put every events in your life in your own hand and wanting to control every movements you are about to execute.

Life is a complicated issue and is never predictable. It sways and drifts aimlessly whenever you try to control or master it. Just imagine you are the captain of your soul and your destiny lies within the grip of your hands. There are thunderstorm, lightning, typhoons, whirl pool, etc which defies your endless attempts to reach your destination.
How are you going to master something that is beyond your control? In fact, you will end up with more absurdity and sorrow than when you started controlling your life.

Let us study on an upbringing. Do you belong to the category of modern parents who make your children understand the cause and effect of a wrongdoing or are you one whom controls the lives of your children by commanding and caning? It is believed that parents who control the lives of their children will end up losing them as they reach adulthood as outsiders treat them as who they are and not what their parents want them to be.

How true this is as many of us, even adults in their mid years, are really frustrated with the lack of communication with our parents. I am sure you had experience the time when you tried to explain something or wanting to be heard by your parents and you were shot down before you could even blink your eyes. It was always the one-way communication when parents tried to impose the entire moral and personal values they deemed proper onto their children. Subsequently, children rebel with the attitude of “You do not want me to do this and I purposely do it to hurt you” and parents react drastically. There will be no ending of squabbling and quietness in your life.

Is that the kind of happiness you try to generate by imposing your will onto others as well as yourself? As I said earlier, life is a complicated issue. You may be in control your own life but other’s life is not within your jurisdiction. The need to lend the ears and to have a two-way communication is ideal for a better relationship with your children. It is said “Happiness starts within your home”, and the home is your family. Think about it!

Thursday, 29 November 2007

MEMOIR OF A ROMANCE BY THE BEACH

SANDSHELL

Flames from the campfire flickered and the shadows danced,
My love and I were romantically entranced,
Waves from the energetic sea lapping on the sand,
Serenaded us like an orchestra band,
Gentle breeze caressed our young faces,
Brought us closer to more embraces,
This idyllic, romantic setting,
Quickened our hearts’ beating,
Sweet whisperings greeting each glance,
As we were totally lost in romance.

Those were the days of my childhood romance that brought back many fond memories. Life was so care free then. There were no worries, stresses or pressures of whatsoever to enable both of us lovingly embraced each other at all the time. Time changed, needs changed, circumstances changed that resulted us to go our separate ways to seek our own life’s goal. But love never dies, as fate has its own plans in hand. The love was too strong to be unbounded by our distance, barriers and commitments in life.

A butterfly may fly off through the softly blown wind but it will still come back to the ground where it has found filled with rich lovely flowers. Love is like the butterfly. The more you chase it, the more it eludes you. If you just let it fly, it will come to you when you least expect it. I am glad I still have my love with me through all ups and down in our lives.

Friday, 16 November 2007

PHOTO HUNTERS: I LOVE MY LIFE

photohunters

This week’s theme is on I LOVE … MY LIFE.
I LOVE MY LIFE being who I am without any worries.

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I can play whenever I like and whatever time I’m pleased with.

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When I’m hungry and need some attention,
I just meow and food would be served to me without any delays.

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I can have the freedom to go wherever I like and do whatever I want,
and come back not worrying that I still have someone to hug in bed.

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Don’t you think MY LIFE as a cat is so wonderful?
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Sunday, 11 November 2007

YOU ARE ALWAYS CARED FOR WITH BETTERCARING

BETTERCARING

Many elderly people in UK find it hard to get through their life with hardly or none of their family members or relatives visiting them. Sometimes, they do get lonely and in need of companionships. BetterCaring comes in the picture by being the company with the solutions. They provide dedicated services to cater for those who are searching for care homes options for themselves as well as their loved ones. Deciding on which kind of care homes would not be hard too as they have options for you to choose between residential care home or care home with nursing services.

Bettercaring’s user-friendly website will provide you with you all the information you need to know about them. On top of that, they even have a community forum section which you can discuss your experiences and ask for advices from others. They even have the information you will need for consideration on the costs and the financial aspects of it all.

Elderly people need special care and attention. If you love them as part of your family, do give them the best care you can possibly provide by checking out the website.

FEAR OR LOVE?

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“Danny was out on a business trip and will only be back tonight. I have no one to fetch me downtown to run some errands,” exclaimed Betty. Betty wanted to give her husband a surprise meal but the food left in her refrigerator was not adequate enough to make a wonderful meal for him. She then decided to use her husband’s favorite car to do some shopping downtown. It has been awhile since she last drove and driving alone without any company made her shaky a bit.

While she was driving, a cat suddenly shot across the road. She immediately stepped on the brake and before she knew it she rammed onto a lamp post. Feeling shock, she heard bits and pieces of the head lamp tinkling onto the ground. Passersby stopped and helped her out from the car. Luckily she was driving slowly at that time or else her life would have ended there.

“Thank God I was not hurt!” thought Betty. “Now I fear that Danny would kill me for smashing up his car. He treats the car as his pride.” Fears of what Danny would do to her kept sweeping through her unrest mind even though he was a kind and gentle person. Finally, a police officer arrived. “Ouch! That’s an antique car. It’s going to hurt the pocket for repairs. Can I see some documents please, Madam?” said the police officer.

Betty reached out to the glove compartment to grab the insurance and her license. As she was about to hand over the documents to the police officer, a piece of paper flew down onto the ground. She picked it up and was stunned for a second. It read, “My Darling, If you are reading this letter now, you must be in real trouble. I am glad that you can still read it. It shows that you are fine. Don’t worry about the car as it can be replaced. My love for you is irreplaceable. Come home safely to claim that love. Love, Danny”. Betty was in tears.

The most important thing in love is to ensure that the other half is safe from any harm at all times. Materialism can be replaced but not the life of someone you loved and promised to be with together until the end of your life journey. For the case of Betty and Danny, true love existed between the two of them. Betty was filled with guilt and Danny was filled with forgiveness. It takes two hands to make a clap. To live happily or angrily lies within your own decision. Don’t you think the Power of Love is great?

Wednesday, 1 August 2007

TIL DEATH DO US PART

Criz’s Sanctuary

What do you look for in a relationship after marrying your soul mate for many years? Those romantic years of courtships would have long been transferred into your memories. Those steady nature and warm feeling leaning against each other is no longer a norm in your life. Laughter no longer existed as your daily medication. You felt insecure in the relationship. You are beginning to grow tired of the relationship and turned restless at his/her every action. You get easily agitated and lose your temper at any small matters that may arise.

You may be a sentimental and sensitive person when it comes to a relationship. You always yearn for those romantic moments to happen once again but will it happen? Your other half’s behavior and inability to bring romantic moments back into your relationship has often disheartened you. Sometimes, you might even have wild thought that he/she is having another affair out there ignoring you all together. You might even make up your mind to ask for a separation or a divorce. Is this drastic decision a good move to get yourself out from the boredom you felt in love? Would you have the courage to say it out loud in front of him/her directly?

What will happen if you think your relationship with your partner has turned sour? Nobody will think alike and nobody can really understand what is actually in the mind of the other. Here is a typical case of a wife who thinks that her husband has no more hope for her.

“I want to break up with you!” shouted the wife to her husband. The husband was shocked and asked “Why?” while holding on the newspaper he was reading half way. “I am tired of you, tired of being ignored, tired of whatever that happened in this house!” said the wife. The confused husband looked at her, shaking his head silently and continued reading his newspaper. You can see him looking into the same section of the news, deeply in thoughts of what has just happened. In the wife’s mind, “How could I have faith on such a person who could not even express himself in time of my needs? He is totally hopeless. He does not deserve to have me anymore!” After a few moments, the husband replied “What is it that you want?”

Wanting to test her husband further, the wife continues, “If I want you to go to the Amazon Jungle to get me the most beautiful flower on earth to make me change my mind, would you still do it for me? Do not forget, the jungle is filled with fierce wild animals, alligators, poisonous snakes, deadly insects and one wrong move and you will be killed.” The wife’s heart sank when she heard him saying, “I will let you know first thing in the morning.”

When she woke up the next morning, he was not in the house. She got panicked searching high and low for him. Wild thoughts swept in her mind, thinking that her husband really went to the jungle to face death when she saw a letter on the table. With trembling hands, she quickly opened the letter. In the letter, it was written:

Dearest Sweetheart,

I would not pick that flower for you, as I might not come back alive when you needed me most. Sometimes, things are taken for granted without us realizing about them consciously. I am not blaming you for making that statement as there is always doubt in any relationships. It is up to us to hold on to what we believe in and have faith in each other.

Do you think I would want to risk my fingers? Who would help you to massage your neck when you are tired from a hard day’s work? When you are so tired and could not run your errands, don’t you think my legs are useful to help you do the job? Why would I risk my palms when I could help you to apply some menthol lotion on your cramped stomach when you have your monthly PMS?

I would not want to loose my eyes too as who would see through the eye of the camera to shot your ever beautiful photos? Who would help you to cut your nails when we grow old and have failing eye sights? Who would take you strolling by the beach to watch the beautiful sunrise or sunset? Unless you could find somebody who could appreciate and love you as much as I do, I am not willing to risk my life to pick the flower for you as yet.

By the way, I have gone out to buy you the breakfast that you have been yearning for so long. When you have finished reading this letter, I guessed I will be back at the door waiting to see that beautiful smiling face of yours once again.

Love you always dear!

XXX

Tears began to flow down her cheek as she rushed over the front door with excitement. Upon opening the door, she saw her husband with one hand holding on to a red rose while the other with her favourite breakfast. She hugged him and gave him a long passionate kiss, ignoring the red rose in his hand.

After all, flowers and romantic moments only appear on the surface of a relationship. What lies under those is the pillar of love. That is true love. When one is surrounded by love all the time, the feeling of excitement fades away subconsciously. We tend to be blinded by the peacefulness and boredom that lie within that true love.

So, are you happy with your marriage? Do you think you still have doubt about your relationship? Would you still make up your mind and make a strong stand on your decision after reading the above incident? It does happen rather frequent in our lives, not only in the husband-wife relationships but also in our relationships with those people close to us. Share the love now as it is still not too late to show that love to your loved ones today.


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