WHAT A NICE VIEW DOWN THERE – PART TWO

…continues from previous post

When you are at this point, there really was no other way out but to die. But most do not know that you can die without physically killing yourself. The answer is to be willing to give it all up. All your thoughts, wants, dreams, failures, hates, cares, fears, the past, the future, and all painful relationships, you have to let everything go. There is only one thing you can hang on to now through this tough moment ... FAITH. If you can do this, I promise you will end up dying to yourself and find total freedom and sanctuary. But, there is no way you can do this on your own, you have to have others help you, but the choice is yours. You can believe the lie that killing yourself is the answer, but you can have alternatives, which are FAITH and FRIENDSHIP. A few good and close friends will help you become sober and forgo your plan for the worst. If you try to go on and push through life out of your own strength, you will continue to fail and go deeper and deeper into despair.

Sometimes it's hard to admit that we need other people. Sometimes depression and suicidal thoughts contain a component of upset and anger towards the world and the people in it. But the truth is, nothing can really substitute for human contact. We do need people. The truth is, just talking to someone, explaining, sharing, venting, being listened to, can often give us a temporary reprieve. Talking to someone can temporarily change your perspective in life. Human contact changes the brain chemistry and opens that emotion "pod" of pent up emotions for temporary relief. It may not be what they say, but just the exchange of emotions like empathy, compassion and concern.

Let someone know your pain
For a few moments, let someone help carry your pain
Someone who is there because they care enough to help a stranger in need
Because they know, or they have seen
From someone they know, or somewhere they have been
That your life may be in danger and there is nothing they can say
To really make that pain go away
But they are there for you even so
Because somehow they know
That somehow, some way
They can help you find the strength to live another day

You must begin to take responsibility for the "bad fruit" in your life. You need to 'own' the fact that you have created the bad fruit in your life, one of the first steps needed to begin the journey of freedom from depression. How can you expect the outcome to change doing the same thing over and over again, without you yourself changing anything? It is common to not take any sort of action, yet continue to hop that some day the situation will change. It is common to become passive, and then the situation can eventually become hopeless. You are at whatever particular place in your life you are at due to your choices of attitude and actions that you have previously made. Some situations may appear to have been someone else's choice for you, but you need to not play the 'victim' role. Once you begin to grasp this principle, you will be strengthened and can begin to make the necessary changes in your daily life. Have FAITH and start to make the right choices in your life with all situations. You can choose to be a victim or victorious, powerless or powerful, each day. Life is about choices. We need to make the choice to forgive. Treat your inner or physical enemy with RESPECT and LOVE. When you have the willpower to do this, you will be well on your journey toward freedom, peace, and contentment.

To all of you out there who feel that it is too difficult to break up because of fear of CHANGE, fear of what would happen to your mate if you did break up, fear of never finding another again. I have one word of advice: simplistic as it may sound, your HAPPINESS is all that matters. If you think you are fit to pursue further into the relationship, go ahead. Be positive in your actions and have some self confidence. Luckily, you are not “married” legally which DOES complicate things a lot more, and that is why THINKING is ALWAYS required. While it is noble and all to work at a relationship you think still has a future, there is such a thing as working TOO HARD for it, so much so that it becomes JUST WORK. Of course, the trick is in knowing when to draw the line. For me, if you cannot remember the last you laughed together, your time is probably up.

To all those who are contemplating suicide: Think rationally before you act. God gave us a life to cherish and to contribute towards human race. It is a matter of time before people forgets what would have been history. Try to be in a peaceful state of mind to plan and to set your life back onto the right track. I have been through this rough time many times and I realized that life is a gamble. Whatever lies ahead is up to us to decide. We are our own decision maker.

Note:
A big “Thank You” to those who have in one way or another help me pull through this bad times. You will be remembered forever for your undying support and encouragement.