Tuesday, 15 May 2007


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I was browsing through the internet when I came across this site on infidelity. I have decided to throw in this topic for discussion, ever since I knew a few couples who have this problem some time back. Some survived this trauma but most of them ended up in breakups or divorce.

Infidelity is the act of unfaithfulness towards your partner. It will involve emotions, shame, disappointment, depression and rage for a couple to love and to trust again. Most of the time, it’s an abuse of relationship where the partner is a “serial cheater” and this is the worst case for reconciling.

According to research, the first 2 years of a relationship is very vital to a couple to avoid infidelity. It will show whether it’s just an illusion or a long term marital fate. Although it is said to be the most difficult period, but it can also be a tremendous time of intimacy and discovery. There is so much to learn and express about one another before tying the knot. There are a few red flags to watch out during this period. They are:

- Lack of romance and intimacy
- Inability to have fun together
- Selfishness
- Fear of conflict
- Lack of respect
- Over commitment of time to other things
- Over spending
- Too much dependence on parents
- Sexual problems
- Addictions and/or substance abuse
- Emotional and/or physical abuse
- Unrealistic expectations
- married before age 20

Let’s do a simple test to see how faithful or flirtatious you are in a relationship. Make sure you answer the questions honestly as it will determine who is the actual YOU.

(DISCLAIMER: This test is only meant for fun and not to be taken seriously in a real life situation.)

1. You are partying with a group of friends of the opposite sex until late one night. If you do not leave now, you would miss the last transport. What would u do?
a. who cares and let’s party --- go to Question 2
b. ask if any of your friend would send you home --- go to Question 3
c. say "good-bye" and run after the taxi -- go to Question 4

2. While having a meal with a friend, you saw that what he/she had ordered seemed quite delicious. Would you ask to have a taste of his/her food?
a. yes --- go to Question 5
b. no --- go to Question 6

3. You saw something nice while shopping but you don't have the money to buy it. What would you do?
a. shrugged your shoulders and forget about it. --- go to Question 7
b. go ahead & flash your credit card --- go to Question 6

4. You have a job offer that is paying better than your present job. What would you do?
a. it’s every man for himself. Type your resignation letter now --- go to Question 8.
b. the present boss is treating you well. Stay because of loyalty! --- go to Question 7.

5. Your views on school regulations are...
a. would never compromise to them. --- go to Question 9.
b. see if there is any loopholes and try to get through them. --- go to Question 10.
c. would definitely keep to them --- go to Question 12.

6. A person from the opposite sex expresses his/her love for you. You would.....
a. smile and think highly of your charms --- go to Question 9.
b. reject him/her & keep a distance --- go to Question 10.
c. run off without even answering --- go to Question 12.

7. You are in your boyfriend/girlfriend's bedroom and you saw a photo of him/her with his/her old flame. What would you do?
a. see and forget because it’s all in the past. --- go to Question 10.

b. get real mad and leave the room. ---------- go to Question 11.

8. Would u rewrite a lecture note again because your handwriting is untidy?
a. yes --- go to Question 12.
b. no --- go to Question 11.

9. When wearing a pair of mini skirts/shorts, what would you choose as the top?
a. a tight fitting tee --- go to Question 13.
b. a loose fitting tee --- go to Question 14.

10. On a tour, the tour guide specifically tells you not to venture to a certain area because it’s dangerous. Would you out of curiosity, go ahead without listening to him?
a. yes --- go to Question 13.
b. no --- go to Question 14.

11. When out with a friend of the same sex, would you hold hands and walk?
a. yes ---- go to Question 15.
b. no ---- go to Question 16.

12. Wearing a newly bought swimsuit, would feel especially 'eye-catching' and 'sharp' when walking by the pool?
a. yes --- go to Question 14.
b. no --- go to Question 16.

13. Are you the impulsive type? Always acting on the instant you get the idea without thinking carefully.
a. yes ---- Type A
b. no ---- go to Question 14.

14. Do you still maintain friendship with your ex-boyfriend/girlfriend?
a. yes ---- Type B
b. no ---- go to Question 15.

15. Every time you pack for a tour, you would always end up packing more than what you need?
a. yes ---- go to Question 16.
b. no ---- Type C

16. Do you mind sharing the same glass with others?
a. yes --- Type D
b. no --- Type C


You fall in love easily most of the time getting trapped in a triangular relationship. Adding to the fact that you are not committed to your partner, you enjoy having suitors. In short, YOU ARE FAR FROM FAITHFUL.

You are partially flirtatious by nature. You enjoy being pampered and pursued by others so occasionally you would harbour the thoughts of 'stepping on 2 boats'. BUT as you are sensitive to your partner, you do try to restrain yourself.

You are shy by nature and have only a small circle of friends. This attributes to the fact that you would not have a high chance of getting trapped in a triangular relationship.

You have high morality and it’s against infidelity. Whoever is with you is the most fortunate but pray that your partner does not belong to any of
the above group!


kuanhoong said...

Guess what?! I think I am eligible to be a monk. OMG!!

cc said...

Infidelity=Broken trust=End of relationship.


piggy said...

Jeez...I'm a Type B. LoL. Never cheated on any of my bfs before instead, got cheated on by my first bf :( That's why we broke up.

CRIZ LAI said...

kuanhoong: Or Mi Tor Foh :)

cc: read my article also can get period?? OMG :P

piggy: awwww...get a loyal one lor...sorry i'm not available :P Hey...how's yr 1st day at work?

-ritchie- said...

hmm..i'm type c..i'm shy and have a small circle of friend.. it's true.. =.=''

CRIZ LAI said...

ritchie: it's normal to be in that category :P

zewt said...

hmmm... i better not reveal my results... :P

CRIZ LAI said...

zewt: i know yr result liao :P

ehon said...

no no. im not THAT flirtatious! *in denials* :P

CRIZ LAI said...

ehon: I guessed i know yr answer too :P

skynaz said...

Criz...first test I am Type A but second test my result was Type B. But I believe I'm in Type D...Sure wat!

Good article ah kor!

CRIZ LAI said...

skynaz: this test is to be done once. so yr answer is TYPE A. hahaha...

Bell said...

Eek! so shameful... I'm type B... but I've never ever considered cheating wor... just (hopefully) harmless flirting~~ If people misinterpret my intentions that it's their issue~

I'm serious about my relationships and would consider a breach of trust a severe and sometimes irreparable rift between my partner and I.

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